|Posted on December 5, 2017 at 2:20 PM||comments (0)|
"the meaning of life is to find your gift.
the purpose of life is to give it away"
- William Shakespeare
Christmas season is upon us. Now is the time of year where people spend money they don't have, on things that aren't needed, for themselves and their loved ones. We are totally missing the reason for the season; generosity and togetherness. Everyone is busy all the time, we get it. Sometimes its easier to order your gifts on Amazon, slap a bow on it and call it a gift, but is it really??
Gift, has two definitions; (1) a thing given willingly to someone without payment; a present, and (2) a natural ability or talent. This year I am going to take a different approach to my gift giving by gifting my talents to my freinds and family. I am making quilts, painting pictures, and offering my organizational skills to anyone who needs them. So I challenge you all to do the same, gift your gifts this holiday season! They are much more needed then the hottest toy on the market and will be appricaited longer because gifts of this nature come from the heart and are received just the same.
|Posted on June 5, 2016 at 4:15 PM||comments (0)|
"Every job is a self portrait of the person who did it. Autograph you work with excellence"
I am a millennial. Millennials are unfortunately thought of as a generation of entitled individuals with a poor work ethic & skewed understanding of how the world works once you are done with school & on your own in the real world.
I do not identify with the stereotype my generation has acquired for ourselves & I am working everyday to change how our elder generations perceive us. Won't you join me?..
The other day I was sitting in a hospital waiting room & found myself in a conversation with a 50 gentlemen that lives in Newport, CA. We talked about life, work, & current events. After about 20 minutes of conversation that man felt compelled to tell me that he was very surprised & pleased by my deminor. He went on to tell me how him & his colleges view our generation & how our age group is considered "high risk" to higher when it comes to recruiting. That many company's avoid us like the pleague because we want the world but want someone else to obtain it for us & serve it up on a silver platter.
Rather than being offended, I completely agreed with him. While I know many successful & driven millennials, I would too consider them acceptions to the stereotype. I have met so many poeple my age that talk of having a big house, 5 cars, yaht, & fancy vacations but when I ask them how they are going to achieve those things their answers are along the lines of; "I believe in the law of attraction, if I will it to happen, it just will", "I am going to be discovered", "I haven't gotten that far, but I know I'll have a fabulous life", etc...
Having been a manager of my peers since a young age I have constantly ran into people asking for a raise when they are always late & asking to leave early. My response is "Why do you feel you deserve more money?" & their response is "because money is tight". Ladies & gentlemen, this is not an appropiate response. If someone responds with a list of accomplishments, ideas, responsibilites they have taken on with out being asked & mentions their perfect attendance record, I will than be more enclined to give said person a raise.
This whole I want something for nothing attitude that is becoming so prevelant in our generation has got to end. So vow to fight the stereotype with me! Let's be on time, dress to impress, speak professionally, meet deadlines, take on extra projects, come early/stay late, & dominate every bulliet point of our job descriptions! Autograph our work with excellence!
|Posted on April 19, 2016 at 11:25 AM||comments (0)|
"I wonder how much of what weighs me down is not mine to carry" -Unknown
I have been on antidepressants now for 4 years (about 10 years too late but what ever). Suffering from Fibromyalgia has its way of wearing down the happiness from your life. When you are constantly trying to be happy, even when you are in the midst of joy, balloons, & cake, you can imagine how easy it would be to want to forget about your problems & constant pain by making other people's problems your own.
I have always been bad about sticking my nose where it doesn't belong, giving unsolicited advice, & meddling in other people's lives. Whats worse is I get so involved in my friends lives that their missteps, trials, & tribulation cause me just as much physical & emotional anxiety as my own. I find myself getting worked up over the tiniest things & the people in my life constantly telling me to back off/butt out or calm down because it's their life & their mistakes to make.
While I get involved for the right reasons (love, caring, & wanting what's best for the ones I love), I often overstep. Its important for us to remember that when we focus on ourselves & lead our lives they way we are barking at others to live theirs that we will be happier with ourselves. And just maybe our happiness & way of live will be a beckoned path for those around you. It is most likely more effective than meddling, that's for sure.
|Posted on April 19, 2016 at 11:15 AM||comments (0)|
"Before you speak: THINK" - unknown
Have you ever been sitting down with a friend, co-worker, family member, or even a perfect stranger having a conversation & the other person blurts out something that is complete nonsense? I have on many occasions. It seems today that more & more people are talking just to hear themselves talk. They are not particularly interested in any response you may have or even if you are paying attention, they just have want to dominate the conversation with worthless words; sometimes these words are false, pointless, discouraging, & hurtful.
Day always told me, "Don't listen to respond; listen to understand". Now that I am older I can now grasp exactly what he meant by that, & my response to that is, “Don’t speak to create sound, speak to enrich someone's mind". Make an effort not to spout out fact that you haven't checked, if you don't know anything about a subject do not feel like you have to state your opinion. Do not surface a problem without presenting a solution & for Christ sakes if you don't have anything nice to say keep your damn mouth shut! The world is full of cruel people & there isn't room for any more.
|Posted on April 19, 2016 at 11:05 AM||comments (0)|
February is the Month of Love. But as I have grown up I have come to realize that people seem to be more anxious to have someone to love than they are to actually love someone when they find them, they are merely happy to not be alone. In my opinion we are really missing the mark if that is how my generation plans on loving throughout their life.
Here are 10 Ways to Love that shouldn't be too difficult for anyone with a warm, beating heart.
|Posted on April 19, 2016 at 11:05 AM||comments (0)|
"Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, and small minds discuss people."
Its holiday season; with the holidays come family & friend gatherings. It’s the time of year where people reconnect with their loved ones and return to their home towns. So consequently, we are all about to start having way more conversation than we do just going about your normal day to day. So while you're sitting around the table swapping stories, what type of mind will you be showcasing?
|Posted on September 3, 2015 at 9:35 AM||comments (0)|
"Being HAPPY doesn't mean everything's perfect. It means you've DECIDED to look beyond the imperfections"
For a long time I searched for happiness. I would look for it from my friends, family, or my current love interest but I could never really find it. That is because even if those people were happy, their happiness didn't transfer to me because I have to create my own. I have to decide that I was happy. But first it took me changing the way I think about my life and my life in relation to the world.
Here are a few quick tips to giving less fucks and living a happier life.
1) Instead of saying "I have to x,y,& z" try saying " I GET to x,y,& z".
2) Set a positive, uplifting quote at the lock screen on your phone. Seeing the positive words all day everyday will ingrain them in your mind and become part of your way of thinking.
3) Believe that your best is good enough.
4) At the end of the day the only persons approval you need is your own. Other people's praise and approval is simply a plus.
5) Do something for yourself every day. It can be something as simple as floating in the pool for 5 minutes or getting an ice cream on the way home from work because DAMNIT YOU WORK YOUR ASS OFF AND DESERVE IT.
6) Do your best with the things in life you can control and do not stress about the things you can't control.
6b) Remember while you can't control everything, you can control your reaction to everything!!!!!!
7) Cut all poisonous people out of your life. The older you get the less time and emotional capacity you have for dead weigh relationships. When it comes to personal relationship, quality becomes much more important than quantity as life progresses.
If you hate your job quit! There are millions of jobs in the world, if you do not like your current one go out and find yourself a profession more suitable for your skills set and interests.
9) If you hate where you live move! To a new neighborhood, city, state, or country!
10) Remember that while happiness is a choice, so is misery. Most often when I come across miserable people they are doing nothing to improve their miserable state, they are simply complaining about their life.
|Posted on April 2, 2015 at 10:20 PM||comments (0)|
"It's better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to open one's mouth and remove all doubt"
- Abraham Lincoln
The month of April gets kicked off with people pulling practical jokes on their friends year after year. In my opinion April Fool's Day is all about making a fool out of yourself or others, and its very fun. However in everyday life being made a fool is something we all desperately try to avoid.
Growing up, my father would say, "It's better to remain silent and thought a fool that to open your mouth and remove all doubt". Every time I would say something that was inappropriate or make a statement that was completely untrue or wrong, there he would be, spouting his wisdom at me.
Of coarse at the time I would roll my eyes and ignore him. Now that I am older have a lot of experience with putting my foot in my mouth, I understand that that was some of the best advice I have ever gotten.
We've all been there, spatted out a statement in the middle of a conversation and was immediately proved wrong by a quick google search. It's embarrassing when that fact that you were talking out your a** is brought to light.
So in summary, what dear ol' dad and Mr. Lincoln were trying to say was that we should keep our mouths shut when we don't know enough about a topic to comment on it. It will save us all a lot of embarrassment and disagreements. Because if I'm truly honest with myself, some of the silliest arguments I've had were started simply because I made an unfounded statement and argued it to be right simply to avoid the other people realizing I was just pulling my opinion out of thin air.