|Posted on June 5, 2016 at 8:00 PM|
Most relationships that start before you are done with school, end. This is because most relationships that starts before age 25 end. For many people college is the first time they experience freedom, but when you think about it, who has any “free-time” in college? There is always something you SHOULD be doing when your out; partying, drinking, getting your nails done, going on dates, or relaxing in front of the TV. You should be studying, reading, or working. Why? Because you are a broke college student that has a planner with every minute of your life scheduled. The fact that some people actually have successful, healthy relationships during this period of their life is mind-boggling. Eventually something has got to give when you are stressed to the max and short on time. Most that time your relationship is what gets sacrificed.
2. Get your “Slutty” out of your system:
College is a great time for this! While most people don’t have time to commit to a relationship, there is always time to have a between classes fling. Sex is important when leading a healthy life. While there are many benefits to sex, one of the big ones is stress relief. And lets face it most college students are stressed for a solid 5 years of their life. This is a time where you are around a large, diverse group of people. Take advantage of this and do a little serial dating so when you are ready for something serious later in life you have a much better idea of what you are looking for and are less likely to cheat because you’ve shopped around and know what is out there.
3. Learn to pleasure yourself:
This tip is mostly for the ladies. How can you possibly have a healthy emotional and physical relationship with another person if you don’t know how to please yourself? If you’re to shy to walk into your local adult store then shop online, either way you need to get down and dirty with yourself and learn what you like with no one around to coach you one way or another.
4. Move to a new city:
For those of you who went away to college and think you have “seen enough of the world” to know what you want, you are more then likely wrong. College is not an accurate example of what people in the real world are like it’s a stepping stone, a sample of the world. This life step hopefully will open your eyes ad mind to that fact that every single human being is different, and where people come from is a huge part of whom they are. If you are from the city and the person you are dating was raised on a ranch, chances are the two of you have different political values, religious values, and ideas on how your children should be raised. Once you learn how to understand people that are different from yourself and the people from your hometown you are better equipped to get through differences of opinions with someone you are dating.
5. Become a independent person:
Many people rely on their parents for just about everything until they are finished with college, some even longer then that. Learning to stand on your own two feet is probably one of the most important steps in you will take in life before you are truly ready to commit and contribute to a serious relationship. Learning to pay your own bills, budget your money, manage your debt are three things most people aren’t taught in school and have to learn on their own. In addition to money management it’s also important to take care of your health, your car, and your house all by yourself. If you know how to take care of yourself you don’t have to be dependent on your significant other. If you don’t know this already, relationships where one person is dependent on the other often consists of resentment and arguments. When you and your significant others are both independent individuals you get to be partners rather then caretakers.
F.Y.I. It’s damn near impossible to become an independent person while in a relationship. Be single for this step in your life.
6. Have roommates, then live alone:
Having roommates teaches you how to pick your battles, how to compromise and share a living space with another human being. It allows you to get the basics of paying bills, grocery shopping, cleaning, and laundry down with people whom you aren’t in a relationship with. You will learn how to be considerate of other people’s feelings, possessions, and space.
Once you have that down its time for you to live alone. Living alone gives you a serious reality check. You will instantly know if your roommates complaints about you never taking out the trash, doing the dishes, or cleaning up after yourself are complete bullshit or completely true. This is because everything is now YOUR responsibility. You can be a dirty or as clean as you naturally are, you can learn what it means to be yourself. This will allow you to better pick a partner for yourself. For example if you discover you are a complete slob you now know you should try to find someone who is a clean person but wont want to kill you for being a pig.
7. Get drunk by yourself:
This is a weird one, but the type of booze you drink says a lot about you. When you think about getting drunk and you’re at the grocery store what do you buy? Wine, spirits, beer, or mix drinks? Plus when you get drunk by yourself for the first time, most likely a lot of repressed feelings come up. It’s a great opportunity to work through some stuff or get in touch with the silliest, most honest side of you.
8. Get rid of all your Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend loot:
The old T-shirt you sleep in, the watch you wear with everything, the cologne, perfume, love letters, pictures, sentimental stuff that is in a box in your closet; it all has to go. Who knows why people hang on to items from their failed relationships? If you are holding on to items from past loves chances are you are hanging on the your feelings for them as well. Translation: you are not ready for anything serious with someone new.
9. Go on a weekend get away by your self!
Step outside your comfort zone. Going on vacation by your self is invigorating. Everyone has a different way of traveling. Some travel light, some over pack, some plan every minute, and others just go with the flow. Its important to find out what kind of traveler you are. Once you know this about yourself you can better pick a partner with a personality that is compatible with yours. So often vacations or even just the action of planning a vacation are the cause to the end of relationships. People always saw that agreeing on religion, money handling, and politics is critical to the longevity to a relationship, how you travel should be added to this list.
10. Get a hobby:
If you are a serial monogamous person your hobbies are probably centered around who ever you are dating at the time. Finding something that you are good at and enjoy add it to your regular routine. Its important in healthy relationships that people work together but keep their individual identities in tact. It gives you something to escape from or share with your partner. So many couples get in fights because they are bored. They spend every minute together so they have nothing to talk about. If you and your partner both love reading, get your information from different sources. This way you each have something to bring to the table. If you love hiking, pottery, or writing make sure you keep at it event after you get into a relationship.
Basically become your own person, get to know your likes and dislikes. Take time with your self for yourself. Once you have a strong sense of self you will know exactly the type of person you are looking for. There are many different types of love in the world, the trick is finding someone who you love and who lets you love yourself at the same time.
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